Monday, January 9, 2017

8 years

8 years of having Type 1 Diabetes. I remember only the date as a nagging place I repeat. 'January 9th, January 9th, January 9th, why does that ring a bell?' I mumble in my brain. It's not on the calendar as an important date. Can you believe that - IT'S NOT ON THE CALENDAR! I thought it would forever and ever amen be on the calendar when I walked out of the hospital eight years ago. I thought I would never forget the day, and the date. Here we are, eight years later, and I cannot recall why the date is important. Funny how time covers it all up.

We are in the teen Grace years now. In all it's glory. 9th grade in High School. Rocking the dance competition team, going out with friends, endlessly on the phone, doing homework by herself and getting invited to parties like it's her job. And we do the diabetes stuff. Every day. Sometimes mindlessly. Sometimes mindful. The 28 BG two nights ago, as Grace staggered into our bedroom at 11 PM, announcing that she would like something to eat right NOW, thank you very much. Yeah, that woke me right up. And I sit at her bedside, remind her to look at me, it will be alright. "I know" she says, as she eats granola bars and juice. "Thanks for sitting with me" as I turn out the light a half hour later. "Go to sleep, I will check you in the middle of the night." "Thanks Mom." You betcha, kid.

Grace talks with her endo about being a teen. She rolls her eyes and gives her opinion. And her endo, bless her heart, sees her through it all. She asks if she smokes and Grace responds "No, I don't and I don't do drugs either." making us both smile snarky smiles. That girl of mine. Her endo gets her. Asks her if she wants to look at her last couple weeks of BGs and Grace responds "Not really, I lived them, I know what they were." I smile on the inside. Damn right you did, girl.

And as we leave the endo office I remind her that one day she will do all of this herself. She looks at me and says that she knows, and most importantly, she responds with "I know what to do, Mom." I know you do honey, I know you do. Then she says "But you'll help me all the insurance crap, cause I WILL need help with those jerks." I laugh and promise that I will. The other things - bolus, basal, pump changes, temp basals - she knows.

There are many days when I don't ask her about diabetes at all, and I don't know a single BG. Can you even believe that? It's called independence, and trust. I scan through the PDM on the kitchen counter every few days and see what she did. Damn it, the girl was spot on. Increased this, decreased that, subtracted carbs cause she was on the low side, cut temp basals. I don't ask her about what she did. I ask her how her day was, if she has homework, what so-and-so said in class today, how she's making it through Geometry. When I do ask, I say "How were your numbers today?" and most often she says "I can't remember, so they must have been fine." Exactly, my dear, exactly. Let them fade away.

I tell her it's her Diaversary on Monday, as it just occurred to me a few days ago. She says "It is? Wow, that went fast!" Yes, it did sweetie, yes it did. Eight years of learning and living and becoming you - strong, resilient, funny and smart. Able to go about your life every day, giving diabetes it's due, but never letting it run your life.

Happy 8th Diaversary, Grace.
Keep on rocking in the free world (look up Neil Young, you will understand).

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Monday, November 14, 2016

Monday, July 25, 2016

Diabetes Camp - Year 7

7 years of going to diabetes camp. It's Grace's summertime ritual. She looks forward to going all year. Six days of communing with fellow Type 1-ers. Six days of hanging out with her DBFF (Diabetes Best Friend Forever), Lily. These are the days that get her through all the rest of her days. These six days sustain.

She sees Lily at check-in time and she smiles the biggest smile. She has gifts. She hugs and they fall right into their best-friend-ness. The kind that doesn't have any awkward beginnings. The kind you have with an old friend where you just jump right in. They've spent the last seven summers together. I believe they were best friends from the moment they met, seven years ago. They clicked that first summer and been together ever since. It's magic.

Grace had a great week - they swam, hiked the long trails at camp, had campfires and s'mores, went to carb counting and nutrition sessions where she says she learned a lot, did arts and crafts together, had scavenger hunts and singalongs. She changed her own Pod (she does anyway) and kept her own logs of what she ate and dosed all week.

She comes back energized. She comes back OK with diabetes and living her life. She comes back knowing more about what life is like all along the age spectrum. She sees older teens with D and sees what their lives are like - full, rich, involved - and she thinks about what her life will be like.

Seven years of camp. Worth every minute.

Saturday, July 16, 2016

Happy 14th Grace!

14 years old and your Mom is a day late on your birthday post. Par for the course right now. Your life is crazy - you are SO busy - that posting to the blog falls to the last thing on the list.

14 and you are wonderful.
14 and you possess an attitude.
14 and you are independent. SO independent.
14 and you are starting to come into your own.

You are an amazing daughter, full of so much life and love.

We love love love love love you.
Here's to a grand 14th year!

Saturday, June 25, 2016

MacGyvering a Pod

We were about an hour and a half from home, visiting my mother. And we were at Pizza Hut when it happened. Grace leans over the table and says "I think my Pod is leaking, it's wet and smells like insulin." Yep, we have a leaker. I encouraged her to go ahead and change her Pod, right there at the table. She objected, stating that others would look at her. If you know Pizza Hut at lunch time, everyone in that place is just worried about their pizza and their kids, running amok in the place. I let it be. I told her she could change it when we got back to Mom Mom's place.

Grace decided to change the Pod in the car on the ride back to my mom's place. Since I was driving, it was all on her. It usually is anyway. I'm just the sidekick in this rodeo. As we were driving, I hear Grace say from the backseat "It didn't beep, Mom." She meant that when filling the Pod with insulin, it hadn't let out its customary small beep that let you know that it reached the minimum fill. We listen for the beep every time. If it doesn't beep, that's the first sign that something is going awry with that Pod. In the six years she has worn the Pod, I honestly can say we have had only the Pod not beep maybe 2-3 times. So, this was unusual.

I told her to try and prime it anyway, maybe she missed hearing the beep. She pressed the buttons to prime it, but the Pod was smarter than us. It immediately stated there was a Pod error and to replace the Pod immediately. Grace told me, then looked at the vial of Novolog. She turned it upside down and in a strong voice said "We don't have enough insulin to fill another Pod. We only have about 20 units in the vial."

I kept on driving. We were an hour and a half from home. I thought of all the things I could do:

- Shots until we get home. Sure, I don't have any Lantus with me in case of Pod failure, but I could make 20 units last until we got home and got more insulin.
- Find the local CVS and get an advance on a bottle of Novolog.
- Get the insulin out of that non-beeping Pod.

We arrived at my mother's place. Grace and I went to a nearby room to change her Pod. And I tell her my plan. I am going to suck the insulin out of the non-beeping Pod, and put it in a new Pod. You would have thought, after I told her this, that I said our plan is to make ourselves some insulin in a lab.

"Mom, you can't do that. THEY TELL YOU not to do that!"

Well, there's textbook diabetes, then there is real life diabetes. I told her in no uncertain terms, that if she were in this situation again and couldn't access more insulin right away, but had just put insulin into her pump that she knew was good, to go and get it back out!

I tilted the Pod downward, with the fill button opening toward me, took out the fill needle and drew out 180 units of the original 200 she put into the non-beeping Pod.

"Well, look at that" she said.

"Honey, you do what you have to do so you can wear your pump. I am not saying this is an everyday practice, but we find ourselves far from home with no more insulin. This is what we have to do. I know they say not to do it, but sometimes you just have to. We just MacGyvered your pump."

Sorry to say that because she is 13, she had no idea what I was talking about.

(This is NOT medical advice. I am not a doctor. Just a mom with a Type 1 child, stuck far from home with no more insulin, trying to get through the day. Consult your doctor and of course, follow all OmniPod guidelines. Don't pin this one on me.)

Wednesday, May 18, 2016

More than numbers - Diabetes Blog Week Day #4

Thanks to Karen at Bitter Sweet Diabetes for the great topics during Diabetes Blog Week this week!

More than numbers 

Grace sees the greatest pediatric endo around. She is smart as a whip, funny and knows her stuff. We adore Dr. B in many, many ways. We see her about 2 out of the 4 times we go a year. Otherwise, we see the CDE in the practice. We have one mainstay who is terrific. She's kind, thoughtful, smart and really knows Grace. 

While they are great, I always feel like I am missing something when we go to her quarterly endo appointment. Sure, they weigh her, they take her height, we give blood for her A1C, they check her thyroid, they do all those things that are important. But all those things are one small, small, piece of her care. 

Our endo downloads her OmniPod PDM in the office. She has access to the graphs of her Dexcom, if she has worn it or is wearing it. And faithfully, her endo and her CDE sit down with me and we look at them together. And my eyes want to roll far, far, far back in my head. I almost want to laugh, but I don't. I don't want them to think I am laughing at them, because I am not. It's just we find ourselves in this situation where we are looking at specks of sand in the desert. 

"What happened here on Wednesday? Why the 54 BG"
"Look at this high, why didn't it come down? What did she eat?"
"Thursday had two lows, we should adjust her basals."

Those are the kind of comments that they say. And they mean well, bless their hearts. They do. They want to fix. They want the steady line on the graph, the in-range numbers, the perfect dose for the perfect carb count.

"Grace has dance on Wednesdays for two hours straight with no break. We've already reduced her basal with a temp basal rate for 2 hours, the 54 BG was her coming home, at 9 PM, after dancing a routine for close to two hours. I think 54 was pretty damn good."

"That high was the result of going out to eat with friends. She had the pasta and then decided to eat two more breadsticks, then have dessert. We carb guessed it all and I kissed it up to God. The three hours of getting the high down was worth the night of fun."

"Thursday night she had play practice until 6 PM, then I had to pick her up, she ate in the car, then had to be across town at her dance class until 8 PM. She had a hoagie and some chips, but only ate 1/2 the hoagie as she was full. So, I backed out of the dose by throwing in a decreased temp basal for 2 hours at 30%. I calculated it. It's not her basal that needs adjusting."

Then they just look at me. And each time, they tell me I am doing 'a great job.' And her A1C comes back and it's 6.4, 6.7, 5.9, 6.2. They marvel at a great A1C in a pre-teen. And I smile. They must think I am a freaking rocket scientist. Alas, I am not. I am barely making it through each day.

As much as they want to understand, they do not. I want to give them Grace, or any Type 1 child, only for one week. I want to tell them - "Lead a normal life with this child, and you calculate every dose, work full time, and have two other kids. Make sure she is always in range, never has a low, never has two lows in one day, and most of all, never has a high that refuses to come down. Oh and make sure you always have enough supplies. Be ready to fight the insurance company for everything she needs. Good luck!"

I want our healthcare experience to mirror the reality we are in. I want to talk about the insurance fight for ketone strips and how they can help me. I want to talk about the bionic pancreas and the future of technology in diabetic care. I want to address the emotional needs of caring for a child with a chronic illness. I want them to address with Grace the feelings of having diabetes. I want them to not give a shit sometimes about the A1C. I want Grace's healthcare to address the whole person that she is. And I want to see the desert, not the specks of sand.

Call her diabetic - Diabetes Blog Week Day #3

Thanks to Karen at Bitter Sweet Diabetes for the great topics during Diabetes Blog Week this week!

Call her diabetic

I am the parent of one young adult with autism and one pre-teen with Type 1 diabetes. That about sets the tone for this post. I hear a lot of language and names surrounding my children. Some of it is not pretty. I'll forego all the crap that gets tossed at kids with autism (look at me being all people - first in my language) and go straight to the kid with diabetes. Diabetic child. Child with diabetes. Oh hell.

My oldest daughter has had autism since age 2 1/2. She is 19 now. When she was younger, autism was not as prevalent as it is now. We knew hardly anyone who had autism, and no one who was a girl with autism. For most of her life, I referred to my daughter as having autism. And I bought person-first language hook, line and sinker. Refer to the person first, then the disability.

Until my daughter, that is, started telling me that she would like to be called autistic. As in, 'M is autistic.' I would put the words on cards in front of her. "Would you like us to say M has autism or M is autistic." And every time, she would indicate that she would like us to say that she is autistic. My daughter is verbal, and communicates her basic needs and wants. I presume competence with her and believe she has an inner life that is rich and varied, even if it is not outwardly communicated with others, or visual to others. She tells us what she would like us to say, because we asked her.

So, if that is true, why wouldn't it be true of my daughter with diabetes? What would Grace like to be called? How does she refer to herself, when asked? First, not all situations present themselves where she has to explain that she has diabetes. She's not constantly reminding people that she has Type 1 by her language. When asked, it turns out, Grace prefers to be called diabetic. Although, when I asked her again before writing this post, she said 'Exactly WHO would we be talking to???' which is exactly what Grace would say if you knew her. That's my girl. Like, Mom, who the heck are we telling and what do we care?

For me, and for Grace, it's about asking the person what they would like to be called. If you would like me to say you have diabetes, that's fine with me. If you want me to say you are diabetic, again, another win for us both. If you don't want me to say anything at all, rock on with your bad self. If you want me to call you a person with Type 1, then so be it. Let's start asking people what they would like to be called and we will all win.